What I wish I Did

“I appreciate people who are civil, whether they mean it or not. I think: Be civil. Do not cherish your opinion over my feelings. There’s a vanity to candor that isn’t really worth it. Be kind.”

I saw this on the fabulous blog of Natasha and it clicked with everything I’ve been feeling all day about my post about Jennifer Mendelsohn’s NYT piece.

Liz had a great point in the comments about attacking the problem vs. attacking the writer, and I was too hotheaded to hear it at the time.

I cherished my opinion over another mom writer’s feelings, and next time I will try harder to be better. Though I stand by my thoughts, there was a kinder way to say them.

That’s all, was raised Catholic, need a good confession to move on. Thanks, y’all.

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Comments (8)

  1. Kas Saturday - 20 / 03 / 2010 Reply
    I love that quote! It takes a strong and beautiful woman to admit where she went wrong! I admire that character in anyone!
  2. Britt Neal Saturday - 20 / 03 / 2010 Reply
    Fantastic quote to remember!
  3. Ri, The Music Savvy Mom Saturday - 20 / 03 / 2010 Reply
    You're a class act, kiddo. .-= Ri, The Music Savvy Mom´s last blog ..Last one, I promiseā€¦ =-.
  4. Amie aka MammaLoves Saturday - 20 / 03 / 2010 Reply
    True, true, true. It's hard not to go on the defensive when you feel like you are attacked. We learn as we grow, right?
  5. Amy @ The Q Family Monday - 22 / 03 / 2010 Reply
    I think it takes a lot of courage to post here and admit your flaw! Kudos to you! All we can do is learning from the past and trying to do it better in the future. :) .-= Amy @ The Q Family´s last blog ..Los Angeles With Kids: Taste of Thailand =-.
  6. Pastor Andy Monday - 22 / 03 / 2010 Reply
    Often times when we read a blog, we want to put in our 2 cents. I mean, that's what blog-networking is all about, right? But it can get out of hand on occasion. My wife & I went over 1 Peter 2 a few weeks back, and towards the end of it, Peter talks about the suffering we endure, and when we do, we should be as Jesus who, when they hurled insults and such at Him, He didn't retaliate...and as ones who follow Him, we should in turn follow His example. In other words, instead of retaliating against the sinful people, he retaliated against the sin (like you mentioned, attacking the problem vs attacking the "writer"). Good post...nice points :) I'd like to invite you to my new site: http://dearpastorandy.blogspot.com/ It's a Q&A format about God, life, and such, and I think you'd like it. .-= Pastor Andy´s last blog ..Non-Christians in Hell? =-.
  7. Jenny86753oh9 Wednesday - 24 / 03 / 2010 Reply
    ...and this is why I love ya. How real are you to be able to say, ok so I got worked up...you rock. .-= Jenny86753oh9´s last blog ..Our home is safe =-.
  8. rockrollmama Wednesday - 24 / 03 / 2010 Reply
    Thank you, guys. Sooo much. :) Really.

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