We’re on Day Two of the ten part series: “Mommy Like a Rock Star”.
To catch up, visit here.
We’re on Day 2 of “Mommy Like a Rock Star”. For day 1, visit here.
Ahhhhh, the life of a rock star. Sleeping in till whenever, staying up till all hours, demanding special colored M and Ms and just the right kind of organic teas to protect those honeyed pipes…sounds just like being a mommy, right?
Hmmm. Not quite. Being a Mommy feels more like the tour manager than the star- wrangling ornery talent, managing wardrobe, (with a stain stick) making sure the tour bus (AKA carpool) runs smoothly.
We’ve all shaken our heads at stars who’re back in shape ten minutes after giving birth. “Well, if I had a trainer and a chef, I could do that, too.” While I agree those resources make it easier, I think the real difference is in a thinking shift- those stars believe they have to take care of themselves.
We believe we have to take care of everybody else, and maybe at the end of the day sneak in ten minutes loving on a Snickers bar and watching “Dancing with the Stars”. Then we fall asleep on the couch, Snickers wrapper fluttering softly with our snores. (OK, maybe that’s just me.)
But every chick deserves the star treatment every now and again. Here’s how to make sure you get it.
1. Demand the impossible.
Rock stars have something called a “Rider”, where they communicate their necessities to a club in advance. They range from favorite waters to deli platters to audio requirements- but they’re non-negotiable.
What would happen if you set a few demands- nothing fancy, just like “3 workouts a week” or “One hour alone every weekend”? Sometimes, our needs aren’t met because we’re too busy to recognize them- let alone communicate them.
2. Lay out the tools of your trade
Odds are, no one else is going to pamper you. That’s the nature of being the caretaker. So turn those nurturing high beams on yourself- lay out a bathrobe, fluffy slippers, a bubble bath, and a good book.
3. Connect with your fans
You know, those people you used to talk to, before you had kids. About stuff besides kids. Other things, like…I don’t know, newspapers and stuff. Don’t ask me, I have too many kids. But seriously, taking time to chat with people who know your other name…the one that doesn’t begin with “M”…can help anchor you in a sea of childrearing.
4. Let your littlest roadies nurture YOU.
When your daughter says she wants to play with your hair, don’t tell her it’s too tangly and grey. Just say thank you. When your son says he really likes the way your belly squishes when he hugs it, just hug him harder. And when their Daddy says Hubba Hubba, just wink and don’t talk about those last five pounds. Because to them, you’re the whole show.
What makes you feel like a diva? And how do you make time for the little things that make you feel taken care of?
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